It's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all

[Little Rose]

Tennyson was right indeed.
I've loved and lost and finally I've got to a point when I can finally say that it's worth it to the last tear and sigh.
With the passing of time you grow to understand that everything has meaning, that maybe we went round and round till we got to the same point, but with more experience and knowledge about life, love and especially about ourselves.
At that point we discover who we really are. We are able to answer all those tedious questions that were bothering us BEFORE. Before what? Before the coming back of our sight and hearing!
Have you ever felt that you were blind/deaf? but not in the proper manner!
I have felt it. and it was painful. I couldn't see or hear because i had covered my eyes with a false image about love/men/happiness. I had lost my hearing because all that i could accept was "I love you till the end of time. You are the most beautiful thing that had ever happened to me. You are my angel!" The rest of the vocabulary was unacceptable. I was indeed into the romantic mood!
In this position nothing can go right! You cannot see your way in life! You can cross the street without seeing the smile on people's face. You cannot hear the ring of your phone when someone is desperately trying to ask you out for  a chit chat. You cannot smell the tulips or the roses because they were not been offered by him.
what times! I've been forgetful. I've forgotten the way to this point now, when I CAN SEE AND HEAR. But i assure you that the period of loss really existed and it was painful but instructive eventually.

Let's hope to tackle om this topic again, as soon as possible.

With best wishes,

Love Rose

[sunshine]

I'm so happy for you.....Thank you, my special Little Rose , for being  near my soul, thank you for your devotions. It's true, better to have loved and lost than never have loved at all.Trusting in  God it was all what  I did, like you said to me HE never let me down. God bless you

[Iosif]

Yeah, maybe what you described is what we call LOVE, or I dunno, maybe the TRUE one? I feel that it is all about passion. After that is some sort of rational love. That`s how I feel now. I just can`t imagine the world you described, it was real once, long time ago, but I feel that as we grow into this (relations of all kind) we become more rational, (that`s what we call?) adults maybe.
Of course you love and fell, but if it happens to loose what you had you are not so devastated any more, you can go on much more easily and see facts more rationally.

[Little Rose]

Rational love Joey, exactly. You've said it better than I could have said it. Great!
Since we've experienced lots and lots of "kinds" of love affairs we settle down and see it rationally.
Some say that rational things might kill passion, or love. I quite disagree. I think that rational insight and the consciousness of our deeds and actions may create a stronger bond that can last maybe (God help us!) for EVER.

Let us be happy!

Love Rose

[Trilulilu]

I hate that I can't really be rational. I mean, i see myself as a reasonable person. But...I used to be quite isolated, no, make that self-isolated, and didn't really have anyone to talk to. So  everything went inside me. But there's no room for anything now there. And i like now to express myself on the spot, i can't think before i act. Maybe because i try too much. And i make huge mistakes. I yell and act like a lunatic. Not being angry, just...annoyed. I act without thinking about what the person besides me thinks. And i feel terribly sorry for that. I can't express how sorry i am. And i am even sorrier when I apologize and I see that she just...looks at me and...nothing. She doesn't believe me anymore. I hate myself for that. For trying so hard that i mess everything up. I try to be rational and explain, but... too late.

Anyways, i got carried away badly. Sorry for that. I just think that... rational love is something understandable. And i think it comes with the teritory When it comes to true love, you become reasonable. By yourself. They say that love is not reasonable. Hey, what the hell, even I say that from time to time. But... I don't really think so right now. Maybe because i had a talk with my girl, a reasonable talk. And she put some senses to my head. I'm glad she did. Maybe I can treat her like she deserves. God help me.

Sorry if i was

[Little Rose]

Good for you Trilulilu! These are the moments I enjoy the most! When someone finally makes me see reality as it is, not some pink clouds and red hearts all over. For this moment of consciousness I thank my husband who is almost the most down-to-earth person I have ever known.
Thanks, for bringing me back to real life?
Love you!

Your puci

[lumycriss]

Somewhere in a novel I've got into some beautiful and wise words about humans: "Humans are beautiful just like trees, but they don't realise it and fade away before time. Some of them without getting to know for at least once the mystery of blossoming..." This is what love means to us, the blossoming of the trees... It's logical to happen more than once in a lifetime to a single person... the saddest thing is when it doesn't happen at all to some people... they would never know the sweetness of flowers to our souls...

[Iosif]

Actually, reading this again I believe that "rational love"  is just a coping strategy. When we're little we make up an image about how love should be. When we grow up we realize that it is not like that. Love is a system of socially-scripted feelings, which we have been rehearsing within ourselves for years.

Socially-scripted feelings sometimes are not equal with our own feelings. I suppose that is why love, just like any other system, has its own stages: Birth, Growth, Death (& Chaos) and Revival.